ME

I grew up in chaos. My parents’ marriage was toxic. A relationship built on obligation, not love, after discovering they were unexpectedly pregnant… with me. That environment became my normal, and as an adult, I repeated the cycle. I fell into a toxic, controlling relationship that stripped away every ounce of confidence I had. I was crushed. 

 

When I finally walked away, he stalked me. Following me, hiding outside the front of my house, waiting for me in the dark in lay-bys. I didn’t just lose a relationship, I lost myself.

I was left rebuilding from the rubble: a newly single mum, buried under over £20k of debt, holding up a mortgage and a fake smile. I spent years holding it all together for everyone else, running on fumes, wondering who the hell I even was anymore.

 

Being a typical woman, I threw myself into my career. For over 23 years, I coached and mentored people in the public sector, helping them navigate huge changes, find their confidence, and handle whatever life threw at them. Funny thing is, I was helping others rediscover their strength while quietly trying to find my own. Then one day, in my 40s, I hit a midlife crossroads. I remember looking in the mirror and saying, “Fuck it. I deserve more than surviving.”

 

So I rebuilt. Slowly. Messily. Honestly. And now? I’m debt-free, surrounded by people who lift me higher, and living a life that feels calm, confident, and completely my own.

 

This isn’t showing off. It’s proof.

Proof that confidence after divorce or separation isn’t some fluffy self-help myth - it’s possible. You can rise from rock bottom, rebuild your identity, and finally live life on your terms.

 

You can’t always control how your story starts, but you sure as hell can own how it ends.

 

A Few More Things About Me: 

 

• I swear when I’m passionate - and I’m passionate about helping women rise after separation and self-doubt.

• I used to play women’s rugby before it become popular and spent years surviving male-dominated spaces. Glutton for punishment, huh. 

• I don’t have a relationship with my mum. When someone tells you that you were unwanted, that if abortion had been legal, you wouldn’t be here, you learn fast what unconditional love doesn’t look like. Cutting that tie was the kindest thing I ever did for myself. 

• I’m a confidence coach, but I’m still human. Still learning. Still growing. I will never stop. 

• Studying Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) changed my life. 

• I have had Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) after being diagnosed with PTSD. It's incredible.

• The only thing I’m not confident about? Spiders. Absolutely fucking not.

• I’m blunt, straight-talking, and I lead with love, even when I call you out on your bullshit.

• I aim for perfection knowing I’ll never reach it, but I’ll still give it everything I’ve got.

• I don’t watch the news. Protecting your peace is power.

• Nobody (except my daughter) believed I could leave my safe, stable career and build this business. I did it anyway.

• I hired a mentor because I knew success doesn’t happen in isolation.

• My daughter is my number one fan (despite the unfortunate initials S.T.D. - what was I thinking?).

• I share my home with two cats, Maverick and Goose, and once had a Labrador named Gizmo. Yes, I’m an unapologetic ’80s child.

• I wonder every day if I am perimenopausal. The brain fog is real.